BOOKS FOR PARENTS AND PROFESSIONALS

Helping Children Cope with Grief, Wolfelt, Ph.D, Alan, Accelerated Development Publishers, Indiana, Illinois, 1983

Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss,.Jewett, Claudia L, Harvard Common Press, Cambridge, Mass., 1982

The Loss of a Pet (Revised Edition). Sife, Wallace, Ph. D., New York, Howell Book
House, 1998.

On Children and Death, Kubler-Ross, M.D., Elizabethe, Collier Books, MacMillan Publishing, New York, NY, 1983

On Death and Dying, Kubler-Ross, M.D, Elizabeth, Collier Books MacMillan Publishing, New York, NY, 1969

Talking with Children about Loss, Words, Strategies, and Wisdom to Help Children Cope with Death, Divorce, and Other Difficult Times. Trozzi, Maria with Massimini, Kathy, The Berkeley Publishing Company, New York, NY, 1999.


BOOKS ESPECIALLY FOR OR ABOUT CHILDREN

Most of the reviews and descriptions below are from Amazon.com where these books may be purchased. Of course, independent booksellers and libraries are also great places to find these and other books on the subject of children and death.

Books for preschool and young school age children:

**About Dying: An Open Family Book for Parents and Children Together. Stein, Sara Bonnett. Photograpsh by Dick Frank. Walker and Company, New York, NY, 1974
This is an excellent and unusual book for young children and their parents. It has text for parents and text for children on facing pages. This book is part of a series developed by the Center for Preventative Psychiatry in White Plains, NY.

**A Special Place for Charles: A Child's Companion Through Pet Loss. Moorhead, Debby, Broomfield, CO, Partners in Publishing, 1996.
A gentle story about the death of a family’s dog

Growing Time. Warburg, Sandol. New York, Houghton-Mifflin, 1969.
About the stages of a dog’s life from puppyhood to old age. Best for children 6 and older.

**Koko's Kitten. Patterson, Francine, Dr. Scholastic, Inc. Reading Rainbow, 1985.
A charming, true story about a gorilla name Koko who loves a kitten who dies.

Petey. Tobias, Tobi. New York: G.P. Putnam's Sons, 1978. Rosalie. Hewett, Joan, Lothopp, 1987.

Sad Isn't Bad : A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing With Loss

The Saddest Time. Michaelene Mundy, R. W. Alley (Illustrator), Abby Press, 1998

Sad (What Does It Mean?). Tester, Sylvia Root. Elgin IL:The Child's World, c.1980.
This is a good book for a child to read to understand that people do feel sad and why sad feelings do occur. The book also lets a child know that comforting helps these feelings. The photographs that show sadness are excellent. A sad child would feel like they were looking in a mirror. The only part about the book that I did not like was that the family decided to take the child away from the home while the pet died and did not let the child attend the t burial. I think a child would understand death better and be able to release some grief by attending the burial. It's a chance to say "goodbye" that we all need

**The Accident. Carrick, C., New York, Clarion Books, 1976.
For children age 6 and up. After his dog Bodger is hit by a truck and killed, Christopher must deal with his feelings of depression and guilt. "The subdued illustrations -- their details warmed by washes of golds, browns and tans -- are realistic and feeling. An honest look at grief with no tidy answers." -- School Library Journal IRA/CBC Children's Choice –

When a Pet Dies. Rogers, Fred (Mr. Rogers). New York, G.P. Putnam's Sons, 1988
n this useful book from the First Experience series, the affable star of Mister Rogers' Neighborhood helps children share feelings of the loss of a pet while offering reassurance that grieving is a natural, healing thing to do. A sensitive and sensible first book about death. -- The Bulletin of the Center for Children's Books

**The Tenth Good Thing About Barney. Viorst, J., New York, Aladdin Books, Macmillan, 1971.
A family remembers their ten favorite things about their cat, Barney. Reading this book with a child who has experienced a death provides a for families to talk together about a pet or person who has died.

**The Dead Bird. Brown. Margaret, New York, Harper Collins, 1983.
‘Finding a still warm but dead bird, a group of children give it a fitting burial and every day, until they forget, come again to the woods to sing to the dead bird and place fresh flowers on its grave. An excellent handling of the subject of death in which all young children have a natural interest.


**Books Barbara has used actively in her clinical practice with children.

BOOKS FOR OR ABOUT OLDER CHILDREN AND YOUNG TEENS:

Bereaved Children and Teens: A Support Guide for Parents and Professionals. Grollman, Earl, Beacon Press, 1995

The Black Dog Who Went Into the Woods. Hurd, Edith Thatcher, Harper Row, 1980.
Laurel, a ten-year-old girl who loves animals, opens her heart to a tiny rabbit named Bun Bun, a new pet that teaches her about the glories of life and the reality of death.

The Comeback Dog. Thomas, Jane Resh, New York, Bantam-Skylark, 1984.
Daniel, a mid western farm boy, finds a battered dog and nurses it back to health, but is
disappointed when the dog doesn't respond to his gestures of affection. "Numerous soft pencil drawings greatly enhance the exceptionally gentle, poignant story." -- Horn Book

The Golden Coyote. Thompson, Eileen. New York: Simon & Schuster, Children's Book Div., 1971.

BOOKS FOR ALL AGES

Children and Pet Loss: A Guide for Helping. Tousley, Marty, Scottsdale, AZ, Companion Animal Association of Arizona, 1996.

Charlotte's Web White, E. B., New York, Dell Publishing Co., 1952.

Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Children Cope When a Special Person Dies. Silverman, Jane. Fairview Press, Minneapolis, MN, 1999

I'll Always Love You. Wilhelm, Hans. New York, Crown Publishers, 1985.

It Must Hurt a Lot. Sanford, Doris, Multnomah Press, 1986.December 14, 1997

King Emmett the Second. Stolz, Mary. New York: Greenwillow Books, 1991.

Let's Talk About When Your Pet Dies by Marianne Johnston (The Let's Talk Library), 1998

Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children. Mellonie, Brian & Ingpen, Robert, New York, Bantam
Books, Inc, 1983.

Mouse Named Mus. Brady, Irene. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co., 1972.

Mustard. Graeber, Charlott, New York, MacMillan.

Noodle. Leaf, Munro, New York, Scholastic Book Services, 1971.

Remembering Pets, Gina Dalpra-Berman, Robert Reed, Publishers, San Francisco, 2001

Petey. Tobias, Tobi. New York: G.P. Putnam's Sons, 1978. Rosalie. Hewett, Joan, Lothopp, 1987.
About the death of a child’s gerbil

Sunny: The Death of a Pet. Greenberg, Judith E., and Carey, Helen H., New York, Franklin Watts, 1986.

Talking About Death: A Dialog Between Parent and Child. Grollman, Earl, Beacon Press, 1990.

The Fall of Freddie the Leaf: A Story of Life for All Ages. Buscaglia, Leo, New York: Holt, Rinehart & Winston, 1982.
The seasons of all living things are described with acceptance for life’s endings as well as beginnings.

35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child. The Dougy Center for Grieving Children, Portland, OR, 1999.



PET LOSS AND BEREAVEMENT
Books to help adults grieve the loss of a pet., list compiled by the Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement

Angel Pawprints. Hunt, Laurel, Darrowby Press Pasadena. CA, 1998.

Angel Whiskers. Laurel E. Hunt (Editor), Hyperion, New York, 2000.

Absent Friend. Lee, L. & M., Bucks, England, Henston, Ltd.,1992.

Because of Flowers and Dancers. Veterinary Practice Publishing Co., Santa Barbara, CA, 1994.

Blessing the Bridge: What Animals Teach Us About Death, Dying and Beyond. by Rita M. Reynolds, NewSage Press, August 2000.

Chicken Soup for the Pet Lover's Soul, Jack Canfield (Editor), et al. Health Communications, Deerfield Beach, FL,
1998.

Cold Noses At the Pearly Gates: A Book of Hope. Kurz, Gary, Friendswood, TX 1997.
Alpine Publications Inc., Loveland, CO, 1996.

Coping with the Loss of a Pet: A Gentle Guide for All Who Love a Pet. Lemieux, Christina M. Reading, PA, Wallace R. Clark Publishers, 1988.

Crossing the Rubicon: Celebrating the Human-Animal Bond in Life and Death: Julie
Kaufman, D.C., C.A.C. Xenophon Publications; Cottage Grove, WI 1999

The Daisy Sutra: by Helen Weaver. Buddha Rock Press, Woodstock, NY, 2001.

Death of a Pet: Answers to Questions for Children and Animal Lovers of All Ages. Potter, J. Jr. and Koss, George. Stamford, NY, Guideline Publications, 1991.

Dog Gone: Coping with the Loss of a Pet. Bronson, Howard, Massachusetts, Bestsell Publications, 1994.

Dogs Have Souls Too: The Spirit of Miss Sarah. Watson, George and Emily. PMD
Publishing, Salt Lake City, UT. 2000

The Final Farewell. Tousley, Marty & Heuerman, Katherine, Phoenix, AZ, Our Pals Publishing Co., 1997

For Every Cat an Angel. Davis, Christine, Lighthearted Press, Portland, OR, 2001

For Every Dog An Angel. Davis, Christine. Lighthearted Press, Portland, OR, 2001

Forever Friends: Resolving Grief After the Loss of a Beloved Animal. Coleman, Joan, Las Vegas, J. C. Tara Enterprises, Inc., 1993.

Good-Bye, Dear Friend: Coming to Terms with the Death of a Pet. Ironside, Virginia, London, Robson Books, 1994.

Goodbye, Friend. Kowalski, Gary, Walpole, NH, Stillpoint Publishing, International, 1997.

Goodbye My Friend. Montgomery, M. & H., Minneapolis, Montgomery Press, 1991.

The Grief Recovery Handbook. James, John, New York, Harper Collins, 1988.

The Heart That Is Loved Never Forgets, Walker, Kaetheryn, Rochester, VT. Healing Arts Press, 1999.

How to Survive the Loss of a Love (2nd. Edition). Colgrove, Melba, et al, Los Angeles, Prelude Press, 1991.

The Human-Animal Bond and Grief. Lagoni, Butler & Hetts, Saunders, Philadelphia, 1994.

The Last Will and Testament of an Extremely Distinguished Dog O'Neill, Eugene. Henry Holt & Company, Inc. 1999 (Reprint)

It's Okay To Cry. (Revised Edition) Maria L. Quintana, et al. Mariposa Press, Perrysburg, OH. 2000

Journey Through Pet Loss. Antinori, Deborah Audio Cassette Yoko Spirit Publications, Basking Ridge, NJ. 1998

Joy in a Wooly Coat: Living with, Loving & Letting Go of Treasured Animal Friends. Church, J., Tiburon, CA, 1987.

Legacies of Love: A Gentle Guide to Healing from the Loss of Your Animal Loved One. Teresa L. Wagner, Maxine Musgrave / Audio Cassette, 1998

Let's Talk About When Your Pet Dies. Johnston, Marianne, Rosen Publishing Group, 1998.
Life After Loss (2nd Edition). Deits, Bob, Tucson, AZ, Fisher Books, 1992.

Losing Your Dog: Coping with Grief When Your Pet Dies. Gustafson, Mickie, Bergh Publishing, New York, 1991.

The Loss of a Pet (Revised Edition). Sife, Wallace, Ph. D., New York, Howell Book House, 1998.

Loving and Losing a Pet : A Psychologist and a Veterinarian Share Their Wisdom. by Michael Stern and Susan Cropper, Jason Aronson Inc., Northvale NJ, 1998.

Maya's First Rose: Diary of a Very Special Love. Kosins, Martin. Open Sky Books, Royal Oaks, MI, 1992.

My Personal Pet Remembrance Journal. Traisman, Enid. Direct Book Service, 1995.

Old Dogs Remembered. Bud Johns (Editor) San Francisco, Synergistic Press, Inc. 1999.

Ophelia's Winter. Sarah Ann Hill. 1st Books, Bloomington, IN, 2000.

The Soul of Your Pet : Evidence for the Survival of Animals in the Afterlife by Scott S. Smith

Pack of Two: The Intricate Bond between People and Dogs. Knapp, Caroline, Broadway Books, New York, 1999.

Pet Loss: A Spiritual Guide. Harris, Eleanor, St. Paul, Minn., Llewellyn Publications, 1997.

The Loss of a Pet (Revised Edition). Sife, Wallace, Ph. D., New York, Howell Book
House, 1998.
Readers of this book were the founding members The Association of Pet Loss and Bereavement. It is now being used as the basis for all their counselor training.

Pet Loss: A Thoughtful Guide for Adults and Children. Nieberg, Herbert, Ph. D. Harper & Row, New York, 1982, 1996.

Pet Loss and Human Bereavement: A Symposium. Kay, Nieberg, et al. Iowa State University Press, 1984.

Pet Loss and Human Emotion : Guiding Clients Through Grief., Cheri Barton Ross , et al. Hemisphere Publishing Corporation, 1998

Preparing for the Loss of Your Pet: Saying Goodbye with Love, Dignity, and Peace of Mind., Myrna M. Milani, Prima Publishing, Rocklin, CA, 1998.

Separate Lifetimes. Townsend, Irving, Townsend Publications, 1986.

Spirit Dogs: Heroes in Heaven. Kelleher, Susan. Owl of Athene Press. Denver, 1996

A Snowflake in My Hand. Mooney, Samantha, Delacorte, New York, 1983.

Surviving the Heartbreak of Choosing Death for Your Pet. Peterson, Linda, ed. Greentree Publishing, West Chester, PA, 1997.

Three Cats, Two Dogs : One Journey Through Multiple Pet Loss by David Congalton New Sage Press Troutdale, OR 2000

When Only the Love Remains; The Pain of Pet Loss. Stuparyk, Emily Margaret, Canada, Hushion House Ltd., 1999

When Your Pet Dies: Dealing with Your Grief and Helping Your Children Cope.
Adamec, Christine, New York, The Berkley Publishing Group, 1996.

When Your Pet Dies: How to Cope with Your Feelings.
Quackenbush, Jamie, & Graveline, Denise. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1985.


OTHER RESOURCES

The Association of Pet Loss and Bereavement: http://www.aplb.org

The Dougy Center: http://www.dougy.org
Provides bereavement services to children and teens in the Portland, Oregon, area. Web site offers information on youth bereavement as the National Center For Grieving Children. And Families. Offers books, videos, and training services to individuals and organizations seeking to help young people with grief. You can search the Growth House database from this site.

The Shiva Foundation: http://www.goodgrief.org

© 2002 Barbara Handelman
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